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Deal with Alarmists
By Joel Osteen - May 13, 2016

Have you noticed how some people are alarmists? Everything is a major problem or a major crisis. They need you "right now" because tomorrow will be too late. If you don't put up a boundary to these types of people, you'll get pulled in, and they'll get you stirred up and stressed out. Don't fall into that trap. If you don't take action and require respect for your time, you'll be dealing with the same issue twenty years from now.

Your destiny is too important to let people who are not dealing with their own issues hold you back. Recognize that's a peace stealer. You need to make some changes. You might think, "Well Joel, what if I hurt their feelings?" Well, what if you miss your destiny? God didn't call you to keep everyone happy. Sure, do your part to be a giver. Go the extra mile, but don't become a garbage dump where you allow someone to always dump their burdens on you. That's out of balance. 

You have to protect your emotional energy. You have a limited supply each day. If you're taking in all this extra drama, involved in things you should never be involved in, you're not going to have the emotional energy for what you need, for your dreams, for your children, for your assignment. I'm not saying to be selfish, I'm saying be wise. You can't fix everyone; you can't make people do what's right. You're not called to straighten everyone out. You're not the savior. We already have a Savior.

I've learned that some people don't really want to change. They like the attention it brings to have you at their beck and call. A lot of times, instead of helping them, we're really enabling their dysfunction. We're doing them a disservice. If you don't bail them out, maybe they'll start taking responsibility. If they can't reach you every three minutes, maybe they'll learn to encourage themselves. Life is too short to go through it being controlled. You shouldn't spend all your time trying to straighten out everybody or trying to make everybody happy. Draw healthy boundaries, turn them over to God and learn to enjoy your life! 

"Let us therefore strive to enter that rest…" (Hebrews 4:11, ESV)

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