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Give Life to Your Relationships
By Victoria Osteen - Dec 10, 2010
Part of having realistic expectations in relationships is understanding what you can and cannot expect from other people. It's funny because for the most part, people can understand and apply this concept in other areas of everyday life. But when it comes to relationships, our expectations of others seem to rise higher. For example, no matter how badly you may be craving steak and lobster, you can't expect to get it from the McDonald's drive thru because they just don't have it. In the same way, there are some things you can't expect to get from people emotionally because they simply don't have it to give.

If someone never received the affirmation and support they needed growing up, they may not know how to give affirmation and support to others. If your spouse was never encouraged, they may not know how to encourage you today. If your husband doesn't talk a lot or show affection the way you want him to, understand that he may not know how. You can't expect people to give you what they don't have. Sure, people can change over time, but they may never be as good at expressing love as you would like them to be.

If you're looking for something different in your relationships today, you might need to begin by looking at yourself. Most times, when you see something missing, you are the one who has it and can bring it to the relationship. You carry the seeds of change. If you want more encouragement in your home, sow seeds of encouragement. If you want more affection and tenderness in your home, show affection to others. Relationships are just as much about what you have to give as what you are hoping to receive.

Remember, you have so much to contribute to your relationships. Give your spouse and the people in your life something to draw from. You be the model of change. Don't push people to change; instead, lead by example and by investing good seeds. Dig deep within yourself and sow life into your relationships.

Be an example to all believers in what you say, in the way you live, in your love, your faith, and your purity (1 Timothy 4:12, NLT).

When you start speaking what God says about you, toxic thoughts cannot take root. God's Word provides a hedge of protection around your heart and mind. Always remember, you are not who people say you are; you are who God says you are. People may say, "You're never going to be successful." God says, "Everything you touch will prosper and succeed." People may tell you, "You're never going to get well." God says, "I'm restoring health back unto you." Somebody may say, "It looks like your family is never going to get on the right track." God Word says, "As for me and my house, we will serve the Lord." People may say, "Your situation looks impossible." God says, "With Me, all things are possible!"

Today, receive what God says about you. Meditate on His truth which sets you free.

Don't allow negative, toxic thoughts to take root in your heart and mine. Instead, declare His promises over your life. Remember, God's thoughts are always for your good, and His Word will last forever!

For all of God's promises have been fulfilled in Christ with a resounding "Yes!" And through Christ, our "Amen" (which means "Yes") ascends to God for His glory (2 Corinthians 1:20, NLT).
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