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Living with Winners
By Victoria Osteen - Aug 13, 2009
A while back, I was having a conversation with a woman and her husband. She was jokingly telling me, “In my house, I am always right.”

Her husband chimed in, “She lives to be right! She challenges everything we say,” referring to himself and their children.

“He just hates that I’m always right.” She said with a big smile on her face.

Now, this could have been funny…except that she wasn’t kidding. She didn’t recognize that her desire to be right all the time was driving home the point that everyone around her was wrong. She was creating a losing environment for her husband and children and depleting their sense of worth and value. Sadly, she didn’t even realize it.

Sometimes you have to know when to let things go, even though you may think you are right. If you always have to win, then that makes you the only champion in your house. If you never let your spouse or your children win a debate or even a simple game of Monopoly, you’re creating a spirit of defeat on the inside of them. Eventually, your family will just quit trying and lose that passion to win.

I want to live with winners. I have learned that I don’t have to win every discussion with Joel because ultimately, if he wins, I win. We’re a team. That’s how you have to see the situation when your mind is screaming, “I want to be right!” You have to realize that you have the power to build champions around you. I encourage you to let others in your life win because then you’ll be surrounded by winners—and that’s a win/win situation any way you look at it!

…Keep each other’s spirits up so that no one falls behind or drops out (Ephesians 6:13 MSG).
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